There seems to be this reluctance to admit that people do have a hard time and suffer occasionally.
When Abraham Hicks talks about getting into the "flow" they always say..."You can't go from zero to 50 in a second".
People elevate themselves through moving through emotions.
Each emotion requires acknowledgment of where the person is now.
When a person comes into your practice or online, saying... "yes but we are not going back there", is not particularly helpful, before the person has had a chance to fully express the intricacies around a situation. Just because you as a coach can see the way out and through, does not mean a client can.
The tendency to rush people into feeling good and indeed, not allowing them to feel bad in your presence, is not helpful to long-term wellness.
When people come to a practitioner often it is because they are already feeling broken, depressed and stuck, maybe even powerless. These are the very symptoms of suppression. Often they are outwardly o.k. and appear in control. Why, because of emotional suppression.
How much more empowered might a person feel if they were listened to, and actually allowed to talk, not only about their 'negative' feelings , but the incidences that had been squelched during a life that is spent in dissonance with the reality of an insane world, where being "strong" is not only a norm, but a must. Where the Warrior is the only acceptable form of living.
The true strong and warrior, are states of being that are arrived at once the deeper emotions of living have been explored, and the energy transmuted so that a person deeply understands why the emotions and responses around a situation occurred, and how these responses have helped them to be the beautiful soul they are now.
Regardless of how we, the practitioner's feel about a person's life choices and journey, please have the good grace to listen to the story, in a way that your client feels truly heard.
Holding our clients with empathy and compassion, listening and validating their life stories, offering our heart space. This is the way I feel we should be honoring our clients. In this way we empower them to realize the value of their lives.